Successful Co-Parenting During the Holidays
Co-parenting presents many complicated issues. With the holiday season upon us, these complications become more apparent than other times of the year. Yes, parent time is typically set out in order of in the Divorce Decree. That said, many individuals seek concessions for special plans, events, or family gatherings during this time. Remember, if you are unwilling to work with your ex-spouse or your child’s mother or father, that may be reciprocal when you ask for a particular concession. It is always best to use an amicable and friendly manner, if possible. To help ease the stress of the holiday season, the experts recommend these helpful tips:
Plan Ahead to Avoid Conflict
Try to plan as far in advance as possible. Working issues out ahead of time can help prevent avoidable surprises and contention. It is more likely than not that the other parent also has something they would like your child to attend, and perhaps you can come to an agreement. Family quarrels and hard feelings not only impact you but have many adverse effects on your child.
Be flexible. To the extent you are able, try to compromise and let plans be movable to the extent they can. After all, the entire holiday season comes with busy schedules, too many errands, and plans dependent on others.
Respect one another’s traditions. Family traditions are crucial, especially during the holiday season. If you work with the other parent to ensure both of your traditions are celebrated, your experience will be enhanced overall. This is the “most wonderful time of the year,” and everyone has their unique customs they want to pass on.
Discuss Gift-Giving & Expectations
Speak about the gift you will buy. If your child is asking for one extra special gift for Christmas, it is essential to discuss which one of you will buy that gift or if you will purchase it together. Communication will avoid duplication or disappointment if you are relying on the other parent to purchase that gift.
Suppose you are not on decent terms to be able to communicate with your ex-spouse or the mother or father of your child, layout a set schedule, and divide time equally if equal time is allocated in the Order or Divorce Decree. Perhaps you may have alternate years for the holidays, or the actual holiday may be split between the two of you.
No matter how you decide to work things out, put your child’s best interest at heart. This will make for a better holiday for you and your child and positively impact your child today and in the future.
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